In her writing, she points out that we tend to perceive our pets as selfless and loving despite their many misdemeanors: They wake us up at night, destroy our valuables, and demand our undivided attention, yet we tend to overlook these behaviors and feel positively toward them.
Allow them to do their own thing without trying to take over the situation, micromanage, or undermine their confidence and abilities. Help in a way that leaves them with the initiative and the feeling of power. Don't interfere: Provide behind-the-scenes support for their endeavors.Be available: Respond sensitively to their distress, allow them to be dependent on you when they feel the need, check in with them from time to time, and provide comfort when things go wrong.
You too can provide a secure base by adopting the following secure behaviors: Brooke Feeney and Roxanne Thrush, of Carnegie Mellon University, in a study published in 2010, found that three specific behaviors underlie this broad term.